Write Your Own Obituary. Do or Die!

Recently, in our town’s visitor guide, there was a piece written by Wall Street Journal author, James R. Hagerty, who wrote a book featuring a collection of obituaries called Yours Truly: An Obituary Writer’s Guide to Telling Your Story. The book was also a call to write your own obituary.

His challenge was two fold: buy his book and then buy into writing your own life story. The idea of writing my story is on my mind every day but just not in the way he suggests with an obituary. While death is not on my doorstep, it’s been looming over others in my life, so I thought I should at least consider it.

While my post today will not feature an actual obituary, it will contain snippets of my life.

Jennifer Wood Laird lived a hundred lives. She began as a daughter, sister, niece, and granddaughter. And, she quickly morphed into friend, best friend, confidant, supporter, rival, and foe to few. Her years of schooling created a student, student-teacher, cheater, speaker, advocate, and educator. During her high school years, she was a baller, player and competitor. At the right (and wrong times), she dabbled as a girlfriend, high school sweetheart, lover, one-time stalker, fiancee, and eventually wife. For decades, she was a storyteller, writer, and journalist.

Perhaps she was most widely known as MOM, and her absence will immeasurably impact the lives of her three children. She was the keeper of their stories, memories, hearts, dreams, love, fears, problems, headaches, obstacles, and missing socks.

Her spirited presence, loud voice, and bold personality will be missed by many.

10 responses to “Write Your Own Obituary. Do or Die!”

  1. “She was the keeper of their stories, memories, hearts, dreams, love, fears, problems, headaches, obstacles, and missing socks.” This is the perfect sentence to describe being a mom. May your actual obituary be very, very, very far in the future.

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    1. I cried writing that line!! But, then burst out laughing at socks. No one really prepares you for all the missing socks…!!

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      1. Quite true! No one ever told me how much of my parenting would be spent on socks – finding, matching, demanding they be worn, wondering why there is one under the dining room table, or hanging on a lamp, or in the middle of the back lawn in a rainstorm…

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    notthewholestory

    My favorite line-“At the right (and wrong times), she dabbled as a girlfriend, high school sweetheart, lover, one-time stalker, fiancee, and eventually wife.” Love the honesty here, and I can relate to the “one-time stalker”! Haha I admire the bravery it requires to think of what your obituary might sound like. I like the idea, but I’m freaked out at the same time! Here’s to adding so, so, so much more to your life before needing this!

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    1. You haven’t lived unless you’ve stalked at least once!!

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        notthewholestory

        Hahahaha!

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  3. You have stories and stories within this story!
    The book The Love of my Life came to mind reading this – the protagonist is an obituary writer who struggles with the idea of writing his own.

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    1. Ooh, thanks for the book recommendation! I’ll check it out.

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  4. Socks: My 10 year old granddaughter refuses to wear them most of the time. My almost 4 year old grandson has a meltdown if he can’t find his “paw patrol” or “bluey” socks. I’ve lost so many socks over the years that if I found them I could open up a sock shop. My cat Max uses them for a pillow and I can rarely find a clean pair when I need them. What would I do without my socks?

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    1. Wow-your struggles just plain sock! 😉 If I wrote a parenting manual, there would be an entire chapter devoted to missing SOCKS!

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